Mutual respect with those that are in service to you, is how you engage, maintain and appreciate your slave helpers. This is why I’m lucky with my past and present slave helpers.
Privileged to have had many, many slave helpers over the last 39 years on the UK fetish scene. If I’d only ever given them three strikes and you’re out, I would have give up the search 38 years ago.
Golden rule is I never ask to send tributes because when you serve me, I’m in control and if you pay, you are the client. If they pay you, you will regret it.
Ever heard any submissive say...
"I'll drive your around."
“Happy clean your house.”
“I’ll edit your films.”
“Want me to manage your social media.”
“I’ll take you shopping.”
“I’ll do your gardening.”
Then if you have, you want to pick the best person for the job, and not just anyone. If they pay, you’re not the one auditioning. If you think you can have both, you’re missing the point. I've never been greedy.
Boys motivated by devotion, or servitude, or alterism are the best. If they believe you value them and enjoy having them in your life, they will be just what you are looking for.
Lessons from slave helpers
Lesson One
Never expect your submissive to be the one to come up with ideas for posts behind your brand. That's your job. For example, offering to promote me on social media would only be relevent after many years of your submissive knowing you inside and out. Plus you need to have built up a relationship with them before you entrust them with passwords...or your 'words'! You are the one to grow your account...not them!
Lesson Two
Submissives who tell your they can do skilled or semi-skilled jobs like graphic design and gardening might just leave you very disappointed, or ruin things.
Lesson Three
Shopping is not a thing unless you are uber stunning and don't really do BDSM sessions. I've always earned my own money, I can buy my own things. Don't get me wrong I love a treat, whether it's a coffee, flowers, perfume, spa appointment or afternoon tea. I don't need a shopping trip!
In conclusion, a pattern will emerge, if you dont think about what you need a service slave for, what is the best relationship style, what you bring to the table and how to audition successfully. We can't blame men for everything, and we can't see domination purely as what the domme gets out of it!
I'm lucky
Practical service should exist because it genuinely improves both lives. My wonderful maid Belle Amie is living proof of that. Read her writing on this subjest and it will help BOTH parties. Being in service to me does not involve role play at the same time. First we discuss expections on BOTH sides. If in agreement we start with a trial period. We must both be happy. I usually offer play after an agree amount of time has been clocked up. However, if the primary goal is to feeling useful, obedient, subservient or practical, I'm happy with that. Belle and I have no such agreement for my reciprocation. Belle is a selfless, wonderful human being, who came to me via his wife three years ago.
Dear slave Mr Brown, edits my films (don't make anymore) and uploads them to Loyal Fans, and my Telegram channel. For this I an eternally grateful. Two jobs I would never want to do. He is a lifelong dear friend, even though we don't session. His loyalty and discipline, not only create value for me but endear me to him. His willingness to help is very important. I values his time and commitment. I've know him 12 years but my special boy for nine years.
Lots of great helpers over the years
Handy Graham, who lives just down the road, has done more for me that any man I've had a relationship with. D.I.Y work, drive me to the airport and Eurostar, collect furniture, help at my club events, repair almost anything, allow my friend to stay in his spare bedroom...very fond of this quirky generous man. Met him at the London Fetish Fair 15 years ago.
New kid on the block is my boy se7en. A fetishist and submissive par exellence. He makes me things; whips, furniture and intricate ball- weight things! Fiendish equipment straight from his twisted imagination! A new journey as he is a client (and helper).
Ten years ago I was looking for someone to build my websites. I posted on Fetlife and had loads of offers. Once I'd spoken to them and asked a few questions it was clear I knew more than them. The guy I chose Ben has built me four different websites for me, and is the techie for my podcast. I also call him a friend (and film slave).
Copy reader slave even!
Slave M does a wonderful job of proof reading my words and will messge me when he sees a typo. Invaluable.
These are just a few of the boys that have (and are) invaluable to me over the years. Special shout out to Presely for all the very hard work at Club Rub. Known him for 15 years. Great guy. Lovely Gertrude for being a maid at a few parties and lunches on the roof terrace. Tweeny was a great cleaner. Miss him and his wife as they moved away - true friends.
Therefore, all thoughts and ideas are my own. We are all different. I'm blessed and grateful.
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