As a caring professional dominatrix, I wouldn't be doing my mistress job properly, if I didn't consider the possible need for subspace aftercare, post session.
Of course, not every session is going to need aftercare, but it's always on my mind. The level I administer, I adjust accordingly, depending upon the play.
First of all, what is subspace? I have many words for it; a state of bliss, "away-with-the-fairies", a buzz, out-of-body experience...something akin to a recreational drug high.
As your mind and skin reactions to the session stimulus, the body reacts by releasing endorphins, and sometime adrenaline - a cocktail of the bodies own chemicals, to create a euphoric state, or deliver pain management.
Sometimes to lightest touch, a caress at the right moment can trigger the release of serotonin. It's no surprise that BDSM games are so addictive, the rush could be your mind, body, and even your soul.
After years of watching and talking to submissives, I've heard lots of different explanations of what subspace feels like. Quite rightly so, we are all different.
However, in the case of subspace, it's a natural high, but aftercare is still needed.
Things to take into consideration are the level of play - light, medium, heavy or Oh My Gosh! How invested the submissive is; in his Mistress? Emotional attachment can create and immense erotic response, even if you are not in the same room. Physically, what happens is they lose some or all body control, speech, emotions - intoxication symptoms spring to mind. I make sure my subs are laid flat, sat or reclining when experiencing subspace, as aftercare is always on my mind.
Subspace can happen as a result of any BDSM activity. It's not our perception of the level of commitment, intensity, passion, devotion, arousal and painfulness, but that of the submissive receiving it. It can be very psychologically based.
Therefore, I would never usher someone out, not caring to check if they needed a hug, dressings or soothing words. My sessions always finish with a cup of tea and a chat.
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